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slow learner
5th August 2008, 05:48 PM
My girlfriend just shared with me that her mother in law is given 3 months to live? So Sad :( I wonder what I will do if i was given 3 months to live?

cookies
6th August 2008, 08:48 AM
my condolences to your gf mother.

i rather not know i have how much longer to live. i'm sure it's very scary. i when it's time for me to meet our maker, i prefer death just struck me and i just go immediately.

therefore, for those who has family, cherish your good times with friends and families, live with no regrets, prepare whatever you need to do for your living family and friends so when it's time to go just go to your new meet your new family - our family in heaven.

EILEEN LIU
6th August 2008, 10:27 AM
sorry to hear about your gf's mother.

ya i totally agree on cherishing our love ones when they still with us.

i saw the tv show Yi Dian Xin Si ( cannot recall on channel 8 or channel U ) but it shows on every wed ( think on wed , sorry , getting old and memory not good ).

last week episode , the show invited veteran actor Huang Wen Yong. he talked about his deceased mother and i can see a lot of regret in his eyes ( seems like he was holding onto his emotions so he would not cry ).

he talked about how he regretted not fulfiling his deceased mother's wish to bring her to visit China ( think he talked about Great Wall of China ).

cos they were Malaysians and he said there used to be restrictions for Malaysians to enter China. later the restriction is lifted but he got busy.

my dad is in his early 70s. he has been a heart patient for the past 16 yrs. his health is not good lately. in and out of hospital on almost yearly basis. to be realistic, i am not cursing him but i do not think he has many more yrs with us.

i am a single mother. not a divorcee but i called off my wedding before we were supposed to get it solemnised. i was already 1 or 2 mths pregnant when i called it off. simply cannot go through with it when i know it would be heading for divorce anyway. and i strongly do not believe i can raise a happy child when her parents are always fighting every day. who wants to come home to a loveless family and endure quarrelling every day ?

i have never , for an instant , regretted my decision as my daughter, now 3 yrs old, is a very very happy , bubbly , adorable and healthy girl. she knows that she has 2 parents who love her very much. and that is what i have always wanted - to give my daughter 2 parents who love her very much, just that the parents are not staying under same roof.

i am forever indebted to my parents. although they are very traditional folks -and although they do not agree on my decision to call off wedding , they fully supported my decision , in spirits and financially in my times of need. without their help, i would never be able to bring my daughter to this world.

my parents are babysitters and they are looking after my girl when i am at work.

my mom is already in her early 60s. health not that good but much better than my dad.

i tried to bring them out to different places for dinner. my way of thanking them for all they have done. i am so afraid that my dad will die without me paying back for what he has done for me and my daughter.

i hope his remaining days with us will be filled with joy and i hope i have done my part of cherishing him when i still have the chance.

mcpqueen
6th August 2008, 01:45 PM
I think we have to live our life and cherish what we have as if we will no longer be around from tomorrow. So that there will not be any regrets in life.

witty cat
6th August 2008, 07:54 PM
meow! Meow!


:( cry! cry! - I do not want to die, I want to live till I am very old, have many children, grand children, and great grandchildren.

why have to get sick and die?

Witty cat is very sad :(

cookies
7th August 2008, 12:10 PM
eileen liu,

i guess for parents, we are forever indebted to them, there is no way you can every paid them off. as their child, i feel that we just need to do at least our basics of taking care of the in old age and sick and don't let them worry about our things, i think this is the best present we can give them. i can't said i'm a filial child but i never make my parents worry about me never give them any big headaches. during my earlier days, no matter how broke i am i never tell my parents or even ask them for a single cent. even if they need moeny i will find my ways to give them. now that financial is better, i decided to give my dad and my step-mom a holiday treat for his 60th birthday.

i'm not a parent yet, but i believe as parent, you want the best for your child, you want them to be happy, healthy and safe, you don't have to be a somebody someday. don't worry about not be able to repay them cos i believe they never ask you for anything in the first place.

little faith
7th August 2008, 01:42 PM
yes i do agree with cookies. think most parents don't expect us be lawyer or architects , earn big bucks or what. they only want us to grow up healthy, able to earn a decent living and able to support ourselves and not get into any trouble , let them worry.

i also don't have big dreams for my little girl , as long as she grows up a honest, kind, compassionate, fillial , god-fearing person - able to support herself - that is all i want for her.

forever tired
8th August 2008, 10:06 AM
if i were to found out that i have only 3 mths left, i would do up 3 lists.

(1) People To Visit

(2) Places To Visit

(3) Things To Do

that would be like my last wish lists.

at least i will know how i should fully make use of whatever time i have left.

cookies
8th August 2008, 12:26 PM
little faith,

what happen you realised that there are alot of things you wanted to go or do but unable due so some reasons then wouldn't you be more sad for that 3 months left?

Curry Chicken
22nd August 2008, 07:05 PM
I'm going to eat curry chicken for 3 months :D

EILEEN LIU
3rd September 2008, 12:11 PM
life is so fragile.

my Indian neighbour lost his young son ( in his 20s ) recently in a motorbike accident.

although my family are not that close to this neighbour, who lives in the corner at the other end, we greet and smile to each other when we see each other at the lift.

it seem almost impossible as i had seen the young chap recently and to suddenly hear that he is dead.

the next day , in the morning, i told my parents we should give some monetary contribution, like what we chinese usually do , give Bai Kim.

my mom , being the stingy sort of person, objected, giving all sort of excuses, said Indians don't practice that.

my dad replied that they might not be happy, thinking we look down on them , implying they unable to afford the funeral expenses.

come on lor, that Indian family is by far , the richest family on our floor. i heard that the head of the household runs a landscaping co.

how is it possible to look down on someone who is far richer than you ???

i think my mom's excuse that Indians don't practice this is ridiculous too.

even if it is true, i think the fact that we contribute something, to show that we care, even not in their practice, i feel they will be touched and feel appreciative. at a time like this, when they are so devastated by their sudden loss, any show of concern , especially by a neighbour whom you do not even know that well, if i were in their shoes, i would feel touched.

i went to their hse and paid my respect. to see the body laying there with every inch of his body , except the head covered by flowers, seems to me like he is not dead but sleeping peacefully.

he was so young, he lost the chance to fully live out his life. such a waste.

i recently found out that my mom's british friend had breast cancer. had a operation to remove the breast. found out this terrible news from another of our mutual british friend.

gosh...i always hear breast cancer happening to other ppl , to celebrities but none of my friends have them.

such a shock. still is till now.

i know all women should do a monthly check just to be on the safe side.

for me, i never check, cos what is the point.

i am 'blessed' with hundreds of lump in both my boobs, how do i know which one are the 'usual ones' and which ones are the cancerous type???

i am struck with this skin issue, which the senior specialist at National Skin Centre told me only 2 out of 1000 ppl get it.

i have lumps ( some not obvious ) all over my body, just underneath my skin. i have them on my forehead ( pretty obvious ), have them along the length of my arms ( not obvious unless you put a firm grip on my arm and run your palm down my skin ). i have loads of them in my breasts, my body, my butts , my thighs. the only place i am spared so far seem to be my cheeks, ear lobes , fingers , toes.

i guess even if one day i found out that i have breast cancer, and i have to have surgery to remove either one or both of them, i would not be sad.

cos i am so flat-chested, it really does not make any difference if i have boobs or not.

what is important is to be alive !!!

Babyrie
4th September 2008, 06:56 PM
Just thinking.... if I was given only 3 months to live.... what would i like to do?

Will i be sad??? I really do not know.

Humm...

Life is good now, everything is just stable, no special happenings, everything seems so peaceful.

I think I will not be too upset, except will be worried about my loves one and especially my parents.

I will think of how to prepare them to accept my departure ... prepare for my funeral maybe, so that the living ones do not have to worry about such preparation. Meet all the people I would like to meet and have lunch with as many people as I can to say good bye.

Humm ... maybe that is what I will do - preparation for death.

happylalapo
26th November 2008, 03:52 PM
My girlfriend just shared with me that her mother in law is given 3 months to live? So Sad :( I wonder what I will do if i was given 3 months to live?

Was just thinking will one think of committing suicide after hearing that he or she will only live for 3 months.... humm.....

Curry Chicken
1st December 2008, 07:17 PM
Since it's going to happen soon enough, why bother to commit suicide? Hmm... on deeper thought, reasons can be quite similar to those given by people who seeks euthanasia.

slow learner
20th March 2009, 08:16 PM
My girlfriend just shared with me that her mother in law is given 3 months to live? So Sad :( I wonder what I will do if i was given 3 months to live?

I have been feeling really sad - my friend's mum died just last week. She died of cancer and cancer is scary - her mum was so skinny to the bone and she was literally suffering so much pain before her death. I am very sad.

happylalapo
3rd April 2009, 11:03 PM
this is so sad.... people usually do not realise how little time they have with their love ones until it is too late .... the saddest of all is when death part them.

:(

little faith
11th April 2009, 12:52 PM
ya like the recent indian rojak contamination cases where 2 malay ladies died after eating the rojak. they were taken away so suddenly that their families and relatives did not have a chance to say good bye.

we really ought to cherish our loves ones every day cos we never know if any of them will be taken away from us suddenly.

slow learner
27th April 2009, 11:12 PM
I shared about my girlfriend whom mum just died a few weeks back.

She shared this with me today that after her mum passed away for consecutive the next few weeks she has been having this constant fear that her husband will just leave her like her mum. She told me she was so sad if her husband were to leave her in that manner, she will not beable to take it. In her head this thought have been playing in her head and to her she is like constantly preparing for that said funeral of her husband in her head.

She shared with her husband and her husband could empathize with exactly how she felt as when his grandfather passed away he had the exactly the same awful thought about her leaving.

I guess when someone dear to you left the world - you will be afraid to loss another love one and therefore she has that awful thought in her head which is not too healthy.

She said to me the love between her and her husband has taken been taken to another level. As they learned to truely treasure each other.

eileenlim
28th April 2009, 03:53 PM
well if i know i only have 3 months to live, i will think of what i can do for my close ones after my departure. i will also donate every single good condition of my organs to those who need it for survivor.

i always hear people saying to treasure our love ones or else when they depart this world, you will live in remorse. well, who does not know that but how many of us actually do that. i care for my family but how much more can we do to show that we hav done enough and when they depart, we will not live in regret.

witty cat
4th May 2009, 06:10 PM
meow! meow!


death......so sad :(

Witty cat is very sad now :( meow! :( meow!

eileenlim
5th May 2009, 11:49 AM
death is the final phrase of life. there is nothing to be sad about especially for witty cat since you have nine lives.

slow learner
13th May 2009, 10:19 PM
endless news of mothers having cancer? it makes me wonder is woman more prone to cancer than man?

Another of my friend's mother has cancer and was given 6 months to live :( very sad.

eileenlim
14th May 2009, 10:43 AM
i don't think cancer takes on sexes. it's just so happen to be one of your mom's female friends. take it easy.

the other day, my sister-in-law and I were watching red thread. in the show, bryan richmond was terminally ill and was having a conversation with his granddaugther explaining to her what is terminal illness. at the point, the wife interupted saying that medical advances, tomorrow there might be cure.

at this point, i was telling my sis-in-law, if i know i have terminal illness, i won't want my family to waste money on me for treatment, i would prefer to just go away peacefully.

my sis-in-law thinks the same.

what's your thoughts? will you fight to survive?

Curry Chicken
25th May 2009, 04:23 PM
I wouldn't want to waste my money to prolong death by another few months or even a year if it's impending and certain. Using the money for painkillers would be a better idea.

eileenlim
26th May 2009, 08:32 AM
that's interesting, you do not want to prolong your life but would rather go for a painless death. interesting thought.

i think i ditto you.

happylalapo
1st June 2009, 09:10 PM
life is a choice - yes, sounds logical to go - chose not to prolong it but to end the suffering.

no one is indispensible in this world, the world will still go round with or without the person who just pass away.

it is ironical, why we seems to be not important anymore once dead??

eileenlim
20th June 2009, 01:01 PM
of no value to others liao of cos not important lar. people make use of each other. once dead no value.

happylalapo
23rd June 2009, 05:38 AM
that is why we need to make an impact in life.


Yes, must make an impact ??? Do something great to be remembered..... idea please.

How to become famous, too old to be a star liao.... do not have talent to be Singapore idol :rolleyes:

eileenlim
14th July 2009, 12:13 PM
if you want peoople to remember you, there are only 2 ways -

1. do great things
2. do evil things

acheive great things like lee kwan yew. if not do evil things like adrian tan (the guy that sacrifice children for worship). you will be remembered for years to come.