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slow learner
17th November 2008, 07:28 PM
I read this somewhere and think it is very meaningful, thought of sharing with you people.

when you listen you affirm me
but your listening must be real
senstive and serious
not looking busily around
not with a worried or distracted frown
not preparing what you are going to say next
but giving me your full attention.

You are telling me i am a person of value
important and worth listening to
one with whom you will share yourself.

I have ideas to share
feelings which i too often keep to myself
deep questions which struggle inside me for answers
I have hopes only tentatively acknowledged
which are not easy to share
and pain and guilt and fear i try to stifle

These are sensitive areas and a real part of me
but it takes courage to confide in another

I need to listen too if we are to become close
How can I tell you I understand?
I can show interest with my eyes or an occassional word
attuned to pick up not only spoken words
but also the glimmer of a smile
a look of pain, the hesistation, the struggle
which may suggest something as yet too deep for words

So let us take time together
respecting the others freedom
encouraging without hurrying
understanding that some things may never be bought to light
but others may emerge if given time.

Each through this listenting, enriches the other
with the pricelist gift of intimacy.

McMuffin
28th November 2008, 07:07 PM
Wow, this is really beautiful.

slow learner
1st December 2008, 08:02 PM
Yes, it is really beautiful.

I am really touch when I read it for the first time.

don enemy
26th December 2008, 01:48 PM
can be used by wife when husband refused to listen to her. bet the husband would be ashamed if he received such a letter from the wife.

slow learner
20th March 2009, 08:20 PM
I read this somewhere and think it is very meaningful, thought of sharing with you people.

when you listen you affirm me
but your listening must be real
senstive and serious
not looking busily around
not with a worried or distracted frown
not preparing what you are going to say next
but giving me your full attention.

You are telling me i am a person of value
important and worth listening to
one with whom you will share yourself.

I have ideas to share
feelings which i too often keep to myself
deep questions which struggle inside me for answers
I have hopes only tentatively acknowledged
which are not easy to share
and pain and guilt and fear i try to stifle

These are sensitive areas and a real part of me
but it takes courage to confide in another

I need to listen too if we are to become close
How can I tell you I understand?
I can show interest with my eyes or an occassional word
attuned to pick up not only spoken words
but also the glimmer of a smile
a look of pain, the hesistation, the struggle
which may suggest something as yet too deep for words

So let us take time together
respecting the others freedom
encouraging without hurrying
understanding that some things may never be bought to light
but others may emerge if given time.

Each through this listenting, enriches the other
with the pricelist gift of intimacy.

I am feeling really down - although I understand the meaning of listening I do not seem to beable to do it right. For some unknown reason I always pick and chose what I want to hear and that people say is selective listening. I cannot explain why I do that all the time and get everyone frustrated including me.